Husband shares inspirational letter written by his wife, who died from cancer.

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Jeff McManamy’s wife, Heather, passed away after years of fighting cancer. But before her death, she wrote a lengthy letter for her husband to read.

After reading it, he was moved to tears. He also decided to share the entire letter on Facebook.

Heather begins her letter by saying,

“So…I have some good news and some bad news. The bad news is, apparently, I’m dead. Good news, if you’re reading this, is that you are most definitely not (unless they have WiFi in the afterlife). Yes, this sucks. It sucks beyond words, but I’m just so glad I lived a life so full of love, joy and amazing friends. I am lucky to honestly say that I have zero regrets and I spent every ounce of energy I had living life to the fullest. I love you all and thank you for this awesome life.”


Making people sad is something she absolutely hates.

“I’m no longer in the crappy body that turned against me. Please don’t think of me with pity or sadness. Smile, knowing that we had a blast together and that time was AMAZING. I hate making people sad. More than anything, I love making people laugh and smile, so please, rather than dwelling on the tragic Terms of Endearment end of my story, laugh at the memories we made and the fun we had.”

She wants her husband to tell Brianna stories about her, so she would know that she had a mommy who loved her very much.

“Please tell Brianna stories, so she knows how much I love her and how proud of her I will always be (and make me sound waaay cooler than I am). Because I love nothing more than being her mommy. Nothing. Every moment with her was a happiness I couldn’t even imagine until she came crashing into our world.”

Even though she passed away due to cancer, Heather does not want people to see her as someone who lost to cancer.

“And don’t say I lost to cancer. Because cancer may have taken almost everything from me, but it never took my love or my hope or my joy. It wasn’t a “battle” it was just life, which is often brutally random and unfair, and that’s simply how it goes sometimes. I didn’t lose. The way I lived for years with cancer is something I consider a pretty big victory. Please remember that.”

Jeff, her husband, was not only the love of her life, but also her best friend. She is grateful to be able to spend time with him.

“Most importantly, I was unbelievably lucky to spend over a decade with the love of my life and my best friend, Jeff. True love and soulmates do exist. Every day was full of hilarity and love with Jeff by my side. He is genuinely the best husband in the universe. Through all my cancer days, he never wavered when so many people would want to run. Even on the worst days you could imagine, we found a way to laugh together. I love him more than life itself and I truly believe that a love like that is so special it will live forever.

Time is the most precious thing in this world and to have shared my life for so long with Jeff is something I am incredibly grateful for. I love you, Jeff. I believe that the awesomeness that is Brianna is our love brought to life, which is pretty beautiful. It absolutely breaks my heart to have to say goodbye. If it’s half as sad for you as it is for me, it breaks my heart over again because the last thing I ever want to do is make you sad. I hope that with time, you can think of me and smile and laugh, because we did have a breathtaking life.

You’re my world and I loved every second we had together more than words.”

Lastly, Heather thanks all of her friends and the people who have helped her. She asks them to celebrate and be happy.

“Friends, I love you all and thank you for the most wonderfully awe-inspiring life. And thank you to all of my amazing doctors and nurses who have taken such incredible care of me. I don’t doubt that my team gave me every possible good day that they could. From the bottom of my heart, I wish all my friends long, healthy lives and I hope you can experience the same appreciation for the gift of each day that I did.
If you go to my funeral, please run up a bar tab that would make me proud.

Celebrate the beauty of life with a party because you know that’s what I want and I believe that in a weird way, I will find a way to be there too (you know how much I hate missing out on fun).

Please do me a favor and take a few minutes each day to acknowledge the fragile adventure that is this crazy life. Don’t ever forget: every day matters.”

If you are touched by Heather’s letter, share it with your family and friends! What an amazing woman she is!


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